It’s not what you say… It’s what they hear

Long ago, when I set up this blog I read a few primers on blogging. One of them suggested that you have a picture of yourself on your blog. There were lots of good arguments for doing it, so I dutifully hunted among my photos for a picture of myself. Turns out that I didn’t have too many (I tend to be behind the camera rather than in front of it).

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I did find one that I liked. It was on a nasty old fishing boat on the Prince William Sound (in Alaska). A friend of mine had bought the boat and invited a few friends for an multi-day cruise. There was no running water. The bathroom was a 5 gallon green bucket (I’ll leave it to your imagination how we “flushed” it). At the end of the trip, I was scruffy as hell, but I’d had an absolute blast tromping around the rugged islands of Alaska. That’s where the pipe picture was taken.

As my blog actually accumulated readers, there came a trickle of negative feedback about the pipe, which has increased to a steady stream. Some people feel like I was trying to look serious. Or academic. Or rich. Or that I was just clowning around. To me, the photo had a ton of meaning. To anyone else, not so much.

For some reason, this made me think of one of my favorite posts on product/UX design. Here’s a quote:

“When I started working on Wufoo, I was definitely a bad designer. I thought I was hot shit and knew all the answers. I saw the user as a wild beast that needed to be tamed. He got in MY way. Use the tool the way I designed it, fool—not the way you think it should work [emphasis added]. Thinking back, I remember being angry all of the time.”

One of the big lessons (which I continue to learn a little bit more every single day) is that it doesn’t matter a damn bit what you’re saying (whether you’re “saying” it to a user with design or saying it with words or pictures on a blog), it matters what’s being heard.

So I’ve pulled the pipe picture in favor of a more recent one. Some people suggested that I keep it as a “schtick”, but I’d rather be known as “that guy who kicks ass with RescueTime” than “that guy with the pipe” (who actually never smokes a pipe).

  • Justin

    Personally I liked the Pipe picture. But yeah, you should be remembered for your content not a silly picture.

  • http://devfunnel.com Mike Desjardins

    Dude! You should grow back the beard! :)

  • http://SoftwareSweatshop.com Raza Imam

    Nice post. You’re a good guy, keep up the good work.

    Raza Imam
    SoftwareSweatshop.com

  • Nik

    Man- feels like two different people in the pictures… Although- I must say the pipe one had more personality…

  • http://www.jasongrimes.com Jason Grimes

    I always wanted to know, but didn’t ask. I figured you were clowning around–good post!

  • Benjamin Turner

    Well, I thought the pipe picture was appropriately offbeat, but whatever. No offense intended, but the new photo makes you look like an action figure or something. Just a little *too* polished. The pipe leant a little “rough” to your character that I think suited you. :)

  • http://www.rescuetime.com Tony Wright

    Well, NOW all of the pipe/beard supporters come out of the woodwork!

    Hrm– I could work in a mouseover effect to fade in the beard/pipe…. /ponder

    @ben I *AM* an action figure!

  • http://www.paulpuri.name Paul Puri

    We have to remember as writers that we have an audience. We are writing for that audience. I didn’t dislike the pipe picture, but I thought it was more of a goof. Still a good picture though.

  • http://kelli.com/blog Andrew

    ..what I want to know is how the milk in the new picture manages to get inside your head and comes out of your ear – and without really messing with your hair – I gotta get me some of that action…

  • http://www.pollstacks.com Ryan Kuykendall

    Bring back the pipe!

  • http://www.northernwastes.org Geoffrey L. Wright

    Keep the pipe. Resist the bland.

  • http://www.MEDIAdeluge.com christian anderson

    The pipe pic rocked. I’m all for speaking to your audience, but come on. taking offense to a pipe in a picture?!? it’s not like you were taking aim at a caribou. I’m with Ben and Geoffrey. Resist the bland. I’m pretty sure you’ve given me that advice once or twice.

  • http://csof.net Gene

    Another validation of the rule, “90% of all online feedback is complaining”. The pipe picture either showed a guy who isn’t afraid to poke fun at himself, or a dashing captain of the northern seas. Take your pick.

    But I can’t *believe* you murdered and ate an innocent moose. Barbaric.

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